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Feb. 16th, 2026 11:08 am
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A weekend of visits.

Friday I went over to DQs and put up a bunch of her framed art for her. I also brought home an antique lamp. It looks art deco bu it's probably from the 50s if I look at the wiring. It's lovely. I have always admired it. I may go over next Friday and put in her bedroom a/c because she keeps tripping on it. She said that she would watch my Dad if my sister bails on me. I may be able to even get her to stay over and sleep in the guest bed in my craft room.

Saturday I went with Dad to see his Sister before the surgery. She's 86 and isn't in great shape. I enjoy her a lot. I like talking to her husband, but he can be an old fart at time .hey wanted to go to eat and picked place in Salem. The food was excellent, but since it was Valentine's Day we had a wait. They said they wanted to help in case my Sister bails. I will take it in the Summer when I need a beach Day. At that point if something goes wrong it's just a call to 911 and send him to Boston.

Yesterday I went to the cousins just to fill them in and see my Aunt. She's 97, and while healthy, she is a fall risk. When her time comes I will never hear my Mother's voice again... Her and my Mother sounded a lot a like. The cousins told me they would help in case my sister bails. It's hard though. They are still dealing with stroke cousin whose behavior is deteriorating.

Stroke cousin's doctors have told her that she will never be able to drive and that she needs to live in assisted living. She refuses to sell her car and is over spending. Her Doctor's actually told her to stop listening to the crappy advice her friends are giving her and listen to her med team. It breaks my heart. She was smart, planned for her retirement, independent and travelled. Now she doesn't bath, won't change her clothes, has burned through her savings account buying junk on Amazon, and argues with her friends and family.

My sister has decided not to bring the dog. Their dog trainer felt that the dog wasn't behaved enough to go for such a long trip. She needs consistency. The dog trainer will take the dog and work with her. While my Sister and her partner are sad they will come home to a better trained dog. The dog will be with 6 other dogs and horses. She will be in a home and just sleep in her crate. It's better for her.

My sister is staying in Braintree. From Braintree to Boston will take them a few hours because they will leave at the highest commute time. All I can say is MORONS. Her partner will not want to come and get her and she will be a giant ball of anxiety when I dig her home on the train. I reiterated the help that was needed. Is she going to be able to get to the house by 5:30 when he comes home? That and on Sunday nights I will require her to sleep over. She will be here a month before Dad can even think of coming home. That is no help. I told her that I will need to beg for help the second month he is home and she leaves.

Today I have to figure out if he can get paid family leave from Massachusetts as his job does not have disability or workman's comp. Someone of the LVad face book page from Massachusetts said I need to create an account with the state before I can even see any of the forms. The Lvad team just told me to go to the website and they should help me. I went and no help. I can't call today as it is a holiday. That and the office closes by the time I get home from work. I need some Money to cover his car, and the various insurance bills. They are about $1000 a month.

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Feb. 14th, 2026 08:00 am
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Feb. 13th, 2026 12:55 pm
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Frankie has been a charming coworker today. I wheeled over the tall chair to my drafting table and made him a bed so he could be with my as I worked...but not sitting on the keyboard.

I have also stopped working since the boss is on vacation in Florida today. She's shopping for a second home for when she retires. She's looking around Tampa.

I have a few more reports to do, but I can do them at my leisure over the weekend.

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Feb. 13th, 2026 05:57 am
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I am working from home today. Not really great in my headspace, but the boss will take it away from me if I don't use it and fawn over the ability.

Part of what set me off yesterday was posting my Boss's $35k bonus..but yet I can't get her to her and train me.

I am looking forward to spring. This is always a thing for me. It's why I enjoy doing trips in March. The single digit temps are giving me cabin fever and making my skin so uncomfortable. By May I should know what life will entail and get to my garden. In the meantime I think I want to renew my aquarium membership after school vacation so I can get some humidity and just find peace with the giant tanks. I used to enjoy that a lot.

In a plus thing I found a bunch of low sodium recipes that look good and freeze. I will be making Dad chow and freezing so I can feed him at the hospital and free me up later so I can make meals for me that I like. I like making Asian style foods for me...quick, yummy, and chock a block full of sodium. I also bough some of those super cube freezer things so I can portion Dad's freezer meals.

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Feb. 12th, 2026 06:15 pm
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I am super discouraged.

I have tried my best to do the right thing. Have common sense. Be responsible.

and I have nothing.

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Feb. 10th, 2026 06:10 pm
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I sent my sister the contact info for her to send in her FLMA paperwork. She is sending it in tomorrow.

I found out that they are still looking for a house to rent...but if they can't find one they will stay at the Hotel in Braintree. Ummm... traffic. Ummmm... there is no way for my sister to get anywhere on her own from there. There is no way she is going to be at the house for me to leave to go to work. I'm going to have to have dad be alone from 5:30 AM until she gets her ass here. He partner does not like to wake up early, never mind just to drive her here and then the partner go back to Braintree. And when Dad is in the hospital and my sister wants to hover over him...they won't leave Braintree until 11 or so and will get stuck in 2 hours of traffic so no one will be with him until I am done with work...anyway.

I asked if she looked at the hotel across the street from the train station that is a mile away from the house. They take pets for $100 extra a day. That and she can walk to the house...and no one will bother her with a Great Dane. She said it would be too early to walk. Ummm...just how do you think I have gotten myself to work for the last 43 years?

Normal people would just stay in my apartment.

Part of me thinks I should strip the place just in case they figure that it will cost way too much money. My Texas Uncle pays $6000 to stay for 3 weeks when he is here.

Today I warned the boss that my sister may flake out on me. I can't tell.
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Back in August of 2025, we announced a temporary block on account creation for users under the age of 18 from the state of Tennessee, due to the court in Netchoice's challenge to the law (which we're a part of!) refusing to prevent the law from being enforced while the lawsuit plays out. Today, I am sad to announce that we've had to add South Carolina to that list. When creating an account, you will now be asked if you're a resident of Tennessee or South Carolina. If you are, and your birthdate shows you're under 18, you won't be able to create an account.

We're very sorry to have to do this, and especially on such short notice. The reason for it: on Friday, South Carolina governor Henry McMaster signed the South Carolina Age-Appropriate Design Code Act into law, with an effective date of immediately. The law is so incredibly poorly written it took us several days to even figure out what the hell South Carolina wants us to do and whether or not we're covered by it. We're still not entirely 100% sure about the former, but in regards to the latter, we're pretty sure the fact we use Google Analytics on some site pages (for OS/platform/browser capability analysis) means we will be covered by the law. Thankfully, the law does not mandate a specific form of age verification, unlike many of the other state laws we're fighting, so we're likewise pretty sure that just stopping people under 18 from creating an account will be enough to comply without performing intrusive and privacy-invasive third-party age verification. We think. Maybe. (It's a really, really badly written law. I don't know whether they intended to write it in a way that means officers of the company can potentially be sentenced to jail time for violating it, but that's certainly one possible way to read it.)

Netchoice filed their lawsuit against SC over the law as I was working on making this change and writing this news post -- so recently it's not even showing up in RECAP yet for me to link y'all to! -- but here's the complaint as filed in the lawsuit, Netchoice v Wilson. Please note that I didn't even have to write the declaration yet (although I will be): we are cited in the complaint itself with a link to our August news post as evidence of why these laws burden small websites and create legal uncertainty that causes a chilling effect on speech. \o/

In fact, that's the victory: in December, the judge ruled in favor of Netchoice in Netchoice v Murrill, the lawsuit over Louisiana's age-verification law Act 456, finding (once again) that requiring age verification to access social media is unconstitutional. Judge deGravelles' ruling was not simply a preliminary injunction: this was a final, dispositive ruling stating clearly and unambiguously "Louisiana Revised Statutes §§51:1751–1754 violate the First Amendment of the U.S. Constitution, as incorporated by the Fourteenth Amendment of the U.S. Constitution", as well as awarding Netchoice their costs and attorney's fees for bringing the lawsuit. We didn't provide a declaration in that one, because Act 456, may it rot in hell, had a total registered user threshold we don't meet. That didn't stop Netchoice's lawyers from pointing out that we were forced to block service to Mississippi and restrict registration in Tennessee (pointing, again, to that news post), and Judge deGravelles found our example so compelling that we are cited twice in his ruling, thus marking the first time we've helped to get one of these laws enjoined or overturned just by existing. I think that's a new career high point for me.

I need to find an afternoon to sit down and write an update for [site community profile] dw_advocacy highlighting everything that's going on (and what stage the lawsuits are in), because folks who know there's Some Shenanigans afoot in their state keep asking us whether we're going to have to put any restrictions on their states. I'll repeat my promise to you all: we will fight every state attempt to impose mandatory age verification and deanonymization on our users as hard as we possibly can, and we will keep actions like this to the clear cases where there's no doubt that we have to take action in order to prevent liability.

In cases like SC, where the law takes immediate effect, or like TN and MS, where the district court declines to issue a temporary injunction or the district court issues a temporary injunction and the appellate court overturns it, we may need to take some steps to limit our potential liability: when that happens, we'll tell you what we're doing as fast as we possibly can. (Sometimes it takes a little while for us to figure out the exact implications of a newly passed law or run the risk assessment on a law that the courts declined to enjoin. Netchoice's lawyers are excellent, but they're Netchoice's lawyers, not ours: we have to figure out our obligations ourselves. I am so very thankful that even though we are poor in money, we are very rich in friends, and we have a wide range of people we can go to for help.)

In cases where Netchoice filed the lawsuit before the law's effective date, there's a pending motion for a preliminary injunction, the court hasn't ruled on the motion yet, and we're specifically named in the motion for preliminary injunction as a Netchoice member the law would apply to, we generally evaluate that the risk is low enough we can wait and see what the judge decides. (Right now, for instance, that's Netchoice v Jones, formerly Netchoice v Miyares, mentioned in our December news post: the judge has not yet ruled on the motion for preliminary injunction.) If the judge grants the injunction, we won't need to do anything, because the state will be prevented from enforcing the law. If the judge doesn't grant the injunction, we'll figure out what we need to do then, and we'll let you know as soon as we know.

I know it's frustrating for people to not know what's going to happen! Believe me, it's just as frustrating for us: you would not believe how much of my time is taken up by tracking all of this. I keep trying to find time to update [site community profile] dw_advocacy so people know the status of all the various lawsuits (and what actions we've taken in response), but every time I think I might have a second, something else happens like this SC law and I have to scramble to figure out what we need to do. We will continue to update [site community profile] dw_news whenever we do have to take an action that restricts any of our users, though, as soon as something happens that may make us have to take an action, and we will give you as much warning as we possibly can. It is absolutely ridiculous that we still have to have this fight, but we're going to keep fighting it for as long as we have to and as hard as we need to.

I look forward to the day we can lift the restrictions on Mississippi, Tennessee, and now South Carolina, and I apologize again to our users (and to the people who temporarily aren't able to become our users) from those states.
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Feb. 7th, 2026 08:45 am
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Still feeling punky.

I also feel like I am preparing for a siege.

I think Dad will do okay. I don't think I will.

I spoke to my sister last night. She is not doing what I need. She wants to be here a couple days before Dad goes in so he can meet the dog. Ummm... sigh. But they were planning to start the drive on the Monday and he is going in on the Tuesday so that won't happen. She wants to be here for the surgery and the month he is in the hospital. So she won't be here for half home rehab stuff that I was counting on. She, her partner, and their giant puppy will be annoying me when I need to be at the hospital.

I told her my needs and that I am disappointed.

She is mad that I am not taking the day off for the surgery. I said that I work in the building. I have waited 13 hours in a waiting room for procedures and days worth of hours in ERs. Unless the heart surgeon needs me to pass him the scalpel, I can't be any closer.

And I will now have to beg for help from other people for the second month home. That comes with a price. The cousins love Dad, truly, so I will see if I can tap them. Lead cousin has already said that she would learn to clean his driveline dressings incase I am sick. That puts me in their madness.

I have decided that while she is hanging around I will go out at night while I can.

I have art and cooking projects planned for while he is healing. I know how to be domestic and I dont mind it. It's working and domestics and nursing care... If I were 65 I'd just retire and try selling crafts.

I also know I can gut my small 401k to help save the house if I have to.

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Feb. 5th, 2026 06:17 pm
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The hospital called today.

The neurosurgeon said that Dad's big eye veins were unremarkable and cleared him for Heart Surgery.

The cardiac surgeons office called. I wanted surgery in March. They booked it for February 26th. Not quite, but close enough not to change. They will want him in on the 24th. I've got 2 weeks of his pay to work with for his bills.

So much to do... glad I am clearing the cold.

Trying not to go into panic mode.

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Feb. 4th, 2026 12:43 pm
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Happy to be feeling better.

I really thought we were going to get that second snow storm and I would be working from home Monday, but the snow gods spared us. I did go in because you alway feel great after a shower, but around 9 AM I wish I hadn't. I had a few hard coughing fits then went on a while. The type of cough that makes you feel like muscles are ripping and that you are going to cough up your spine.

Needless to say it's been work and bed. Today is not so bad and I am working from home. No cough. Some sneezes. A bit of a stuffy head, but I can think so it's good.

No word on any discussion on Dad. I know the LVad team meets Mondays so I thought I would hear back, but I bet people are just sick with the crud like I am. I know the LVad nurse has been home with it and she has small kids.

I need to get Dad's taxes done and look into some financials. See if the hospital social worker can help me with some papers. I have made an appointment with a palliative care doctor incase Dad can't have the surgery.

The boss wants me to train in case something bad happens. I told her I would as soon as I was't sick. I will begin next week. Sadly I found out the guy that I'm supposed to train no longer wants to so he will be reluctant. That will take the nice out of it, but I've trained like that before.

I have a desire to get out of the house. Cabin fever sucks when the temps are arctic. I need a long long walk...either on a beach or in the woods. Soon.
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Hi all!

I'm doing some minor operational work tonight. It should be transparent, but there's always a chance that something goes wrong. The main thing I'm touching is testing a replacement for Apache2 (our web server software) in one area of the site.

Thank you!

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